At times in life we are faced with disappointment. We create this ourselves through the initial creation of expectations. We form this belief in our minds that things will turn out a certain way, failing to realize that sometimes we cannot control what higher powers have planned for us. We fail to allow life to unfold because we hold on ever so tightly to expectations, because we are a society of planners, a society that fears change. And when we are struck with the reality that our plans have changed, not because we chose to change them, but because destiny decided, we crumble. We let it consume our entire being, eating away at our soul. And that void we are trying to fill with inanimate objects only grows emptier. The more we fill it, the less we truly have. We feel betrayed. A form of betrayal that doesn’t make sense really, because it’s not like life agreed to these expectations. It’s not like life signed off on these expectations. So how does one break away from this toxic cycle… I used to ask that question a lot, but I’ve come to realize that to break away from this is to break away from the lessons we learn in life.
Yes, have expectations, without expecting them to never change without our permission. Yes, have expectations, and when they go against us, be sad. Be angry. Go out into an open field and scream. Let those little droplets of emotion pour out from your eyes. Let it out. Let it go. Create space. Learn.
Life will go on.
Love Tan.